Tuesday, January 8, 2008

Catching up...

I know I should have taken my break from school to blog every day. Oh well, there's a lot of things I should do. So, I am going to do a little catching up with pictures...
Christmas eve, right before church. We always dress up, although most of the church is real casual. My kids recited the Christmas story from Luke and the girls sang Away in a Manger while Caleb played it on the piano. The Sunday before Christmas, Elisa did the recitation herself at church which was so special.
Putting out our stockings...
Need I say more?
I was so excited to get the Hairspray Soundtrack because I loved the movie so much....then we cranked it up and I read the lyrics...Elisa went around the house singing " I'm the ladies choice"
My Tennessee boys....I had to sneak this hat past Caleb to surprise him....he kept begging for it and it hasn't left his head to much since he got it....although Mike is still wearing my TN sweatshirt...
Ok, since this has taken way too long, I shall just end with this, so I can get on to my next post....
Happy (belated) New Year!

Party of Five...plus one...

So, how exactly do I go about being Party of Five to Party of Six? The title doesn't exactly have the same ring to it since I took my name from the Fox TV show from the 90's. But it does sound good around here....six Williams.
I got a post Christmas gift on December 27th. I found out that I am going to have another baby. While Mike is still recovering somewhat (!), we are excited around here to think that late this summer we will welcome another little baby into this home. Well, hopefully not this one, hopefully we will sell before then.
And so, after four years, I get to hold my own baby again, be sleep deprived again, change diapers again, and paint a new nursery again. What a joyous gift.
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Jan. 12, 2008 - A precious new baby!!!!
Posted by Anonymous
Congratulations!!!!! I'm so happy for you. :) That is so exciting!!!! Pretty soon, you'll have enough for your own soccer team! Pennie Gregg (a.k.a. ex-stalker....I can't be your stalker any more, because now you know my name & can recognize my face. HA!)
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Jan. 14, 2008 - Congratulations!
Posted by bestsister
That is wonderful. Now see some might suggest that you keep the party of five title and have it mean children only, and that you try again... or you could just become party of 6....less sleepless nights. ;-) Praying all goes well for you, Barbara
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Jan. 14, 2008 - I'm so happy for you!!!
Posted by LaDonna C.
I still remember the tears you shed that day at Our Lady of Fatima fellowship hall, telling me Mike had taken down the baby bed and was so excited to do so, and you...not so much! And now look! God is going to bless you again...I truly am excited, mostly because it's Y-O-U and not M-E!!!! I really love all the sleep I am getting these days! :)
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Jan. 14, 2008 - It is worth every lost minute of sleep...
Posted by QueenoftheHill
...to hold your baby after the months of anticipation! In fact, I don't even remember that part and mine is only 19 months old. I can't wait to meet him/her and see that miracle unfold for you where your heart expands and you realize you absolutely love the little thing as much as your other kids and you never thought that was humanly possible... What a blessing. xoxo
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Jan. 16, 2008 - so happy for you
Posted by onfire
I remember you saying you were trying when I first met you. remember divulging that much on the first "date"? boy, we women sure don't beat around the bush. maybe I can join you in the ranks someday.
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Posted by jennfromtenn
Congrats!! I haven't checked my blog in ages, or taken the time to read anyone else's, so I guess I'm behind the loop, but I'm really excited for you guys. We are taking this semester off from Monday Fun, but I'm sure we'll see you guys on a field trip or something. Blessings, Jenn

Monday, December 17, 2007

A Christmas memory...

My mind has wandered a lot to Christmas' of the past lately. I loved Smallworld's blog about her first married Christmas, and so, I decided to blog about one of my Christmas memories.
It actually wasn't very long ago, and I can't believe I remember much because it was the year Elisa was born, and looking back on the pictures, my eyes weren't opened much in any picture, most likely because of sleep deprivation because she was only one month old. That, or my cheeks were just that big from all the weight I gained after the c-section...
After Elisa was born, I vowed to keep her inside as much as possible the first two months since Bekah had had RSV, and was in the hospital as a newborn. And so, for two months, I stayed at home. All day. With a 3 1/2 year old, 1 1/2 year old, and a new born. I couldn't wait until 9 a.m. so I could call another adult and talk. I had my list. First, I would call Joy, if she didn't answer then Maria, if she didn't answer....it was a joyous time in my life.
About a week before Christmas, I got a chance to take Caleb and Bekah out to the mall to see Santa, and Mike stayed home with Elisa. This was the first time we tried this. When we got there I noticed there were a lot of animals in line but no kids. Strange, I thought, but stayed in line anyway. By the time we got to the front, the woman asked me where my pet was. I said, "I don't have a pet, just my children." To that she said, "well tonight is pet night, no children can see Santa." Huh? Unfortunately for her, I had many hormones still racing through me, and had been locked up in my house now for over 4 weeks. And so, the tears began to pour, and my voice got a little loud.
"I just had a baby," I yelled. "I can't leave my house with her, I had surgery, and this is the only chance I will get to take these kids out to see Santa." It was about that time I see a familiar face coming out of another store. To my embarresment, she heard me, and asked what was going on. Then she looked at the lady I had just yelled at and said, "Mom, you have to let her kids go talk to Santa." After picking myslef up off the floor, the woman looked at me and said, "They can talk to him, but can't sit on his lap because of all the pet hair.." Ah, yes, Merry Christmas to all, and to all a good night.
Here are the kids with the Santa they couldn't touch....Bekah is still afraid of him...
this was also the year Bekah had many scars on her face from all the mosquito bites...and she chose Veggie Tale bandaids...
And here I am trying to keep my eyes open for the picture...literally, this is what I look like in all the pictures that Christmas.
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Dec. 17, 2007 - Untitled Comment
Posted by SmallWorld
I remember that night at the mall! My mom and I were at the Dollar Store and saw you right after that adventure! I've told that story several times!
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Dec. 18, 2007 - I think...
Posted by QueenoftheHill
You look beautiful! Way to hang in there and beat down the Grinch!!!
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Posted by Suzanne
Cute pictures! Thanks for sharing them!

Monday, December 10, 2007

Decorating the tree..

Most years, our tradition is to put up our Christmas tree the Saturday after Thanksgiving. But this year, our tree and all our decorations were sitting in a storage unit about five minutes from our house. We were hopeful that we would be in our new house by Christmas, so it was the first in the storage unit. I finally got excited enough to tackle this, and so last Thursday we all went to the storage unit and got most of our decorations.
This was my first look at all we have in storage, and wow, we have a lot in storage! Now I am wondering what to do with it all. Mike easily found the tree and was ready to leave with just the tree, but I lovingly reminded him we needed ornaments. So, as he set to work finding those, I looked for the presents I had bought through the year. After lugging and pulling and ripping tape, we got it done and here is the result....
We ended up decorating on the 6th , which is St. Nicholas Day, and a tradition in my family for as long as I can remeber. I also found my Christmas cd's, much to Mike's dismay, but, I put on Emmanuel first, which is our favorite, and it felt like Christmas. (just don't ask me how many pictures I had to take to get this last shot...)
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Dec. 11, 2007 - truly beautiful
Posted by onfire (206.132.53.155)
it just wouldn't be christmas, to me, without a tree. and I am also glad to see we are not the only family who needs to rearrange some furniture slightly in order to accomodate the bush.
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Dec. 12, 2007 - It's so beautiful...
Posted by Mom (134.114.24.77)
For me, sitting in the darkened living room with the tree lights glowing and some Christmas music in the background gives me a sense of calm and peace in this hectic hectic time. Then again, we don't have a houseful of little ones to keep the calm times at bay! As the Bible says, for every thing there is a Season, and we're in a later Season of life. My wish for you dear ones is that you continue to love each moment of your lives together - they are all so precious.
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Dec. 19, 2007 - You never know...
Posted by QueenoftheHill (72.12.53.46)
It just may be that tree that sells the house!

Friday, November 23, 2007

Sharing our blessings...


Yesterday was a great Thanksgiving for us, and one like we have never had before. My brother in law is a police officer. About three months ago he arrested a homeless man (Wayne) who turned himself in on a warrant for a revoked license because he was hungry and knew that in jail, he could at least get a meal. Jeff saw something in Wayne and offered to help him if he wanted it. Not much later, Wayne came looking for Jeff and has since kept a job and an apartment. The rest is in the article I posted at the end.
Jeff invited Wayne to Thanksgiving with our family. It was so neat to have him with us. It's the kind of Thanksgiving or Christmas I had always envisioned, having someone there who needs our help, who has no family, who is truly grateful just to be here, and to be alive. He is a very kind and gracious man. When he first came in, Jeff asked him what he would like to drink and Wayne said, "Wine would be great, I get nervous around white people I have never met!" (he is a black man) He was very open with us about his life, which has been rocky, his addictions, and how he is so thankful to God for turning his life around and bringing Jeff into it.
It made me very aware and very thankful that I have a house to live in, a husband who works so hard to provide for us, and God who never gives up on us. Wayne was homeless in my little town, and I mean little, about 800 people. It really opened my eyes to the fact that this is all around us. And thankful too, that my husband, fyftn, has a heart for helping people just like Wayne. It was one of my favorite Thanksgivings. And I hope we get to share more of our blessings with Wayne in the future.
Alcoa officer answers call to help transform a life Mark Boxley Published: November 21, 2007Hanging up a pay phone at a gas station on Alcoa Highway, Luther Wayne Kennedy stood impatiently on a warm July morning, waiting for a police cruiser to pick him up and take him to jail. And the only thing he could think about was getting there before the jail stopped serving lunch.

of The Daily Times Staff

He had been living under a tree - actually, it was hardly a tree. His home was better described as a large bush with a floor made of slabs of stone scavenged from a nearby garden. There he lived with a sleeping bag and a small suitcase containing everything he owned - which wasn't much, a trio of shirts, a couple pairs of pants and whatever toiletries he was lucky enough to have that day.
But it wasn't all bad: He was within walking distance of the crack house where he got his drugs and he was far enough away to stay out of trouble if the police came. And that was something that happened more often than not.
But because his 22-year habit took every cent he came across, Wayne - as he was known by his friends - hadn't eaten in three days.
He had gotten up that morning to a grumbling stomach and with no food in sight, and he remembered he had an active warrant for driving on a revoked license. Jail's not great, he thought, but at least he would have food to eat, clean clothes to wear and he wouldn't be sleeping under a tree.
So he called the police and turned himself in.
"I would rather be in jail than live like I was living," he said. "(In jail) I got food, I got shelter, I can take a shower and they've got clothes. I know it sounds crazy, but that's how bad off I was."
Something unexpected
When the officer did arrive just before noon that July 12, instead of the gruff police officer Wayne was expecting, he was approached by Alcoa Police Patrol Officer Jeff Parsons.
"Jeff got out of the car and there was an air about him," Wayne said. "Like he really didn't want to put the handcuffs on me."
Wayne is 58 years old, and when Jeff Parsons first saw him, he could tell the man had been living a rough life.
"He just looked horrible," Parsons said. "He looked like an old gentleman who life had just beat him down."
The two made a connection, even with Wayne handcuffed in the backseat of the cruiser. Jeff could see there was something different about the way Wayne talked about his life and how he wanted to change.
"On the way to the jail, he just kind of poured his heart out," Jeff said.
It was the sincerity in Wayne's voice that moved him to give the man his police department phone number. And for Wayne, that one gesture was what occupied his thoughts during the next 12 days in jail - the thought that someone would be waiting to help him when he got out.
"He said on the way on up (to the jail ... 'If you want help, if you truly, honestly want help, I'll help you,'" Wayne said. "And all of a sudden I felt - I had a feeling like, man, I don't know, I just wasn't scared any more.
"I said, 'When I get out of (jail), I'm going to have help. I'm through with drugs.'" But that wasn't exactly how it happened.
Hitting bottom
Wayne was released from the Blount County Jail on July 24, a Tuesday. It just so happens that Jeff is off on Tuesdays, and despite many attempts Wayne just wasn't able to track him down. Nonetheless, his spirit wasn't broken yet.
Walking from the jail with nowhere to go, Wayne looked down Lamar Alexander Parkway.
"When I was in jail, I said I was going to make a left turn (in life) instead of a right turn," he said. "If I go right, I go into the hood - straight into the drug world."
And he went left, literally. Ending up at First Baptist Church in Maryville, Wayne explained his problem to someone at the church, how he couldn't get in touch with Jeff.
"They sat down and said, 'Just a minute,'" he said. "She came back in about five minutes and said, 'We have a room for you at the Executive Lodge for one night. ... This should give you time to get in touch with him.'
"Man, I was so happy."
But again, the next morning Wayne still couldn't get Jeff on the phone. Wayne had left the jail with a Bible someone had given to him, and he was angry - at Jeff, at God, at everything.
"I wanted to tear that Bible up, man, I really did because I said, 'This guy lied to me,'" he said. "So, I just tore the cover off the Bible.
"(And) I went back to the drug world."
Back to the tree
The next 10 days, Wayne says, were the lowest of his life. And looking back it was God's way of letting him hit the bottom before building him back up, he said.
"I did drugs for 10 days - for 10 days I went back to where I was at before I met Jeff," he said. "I was living under a tree, man - it was a tree.
"I was actually, actually homeless."
But one day, he remembered what it was like in the back of that police cruiser, and the hope Jeff had given him. So he made the decision to try one more time.
"So, one morning ... I was determined, I said I'm going to see Jeff," he said. "So, I got up and started walking."
He was in Rockford.
"First I went by the Days Inn, because they have a breakfast there," he said with a laugh, explaining how the staff at hotels don't always know who had stayed there and who didn't. "When you're homeless, you learn how to survive."
He made a call from the hotel to the Alcoa Police Department - Jeff was out on a call, but just knowing he was working that day was enough for Wayne.
"(The person on the phone) said, 'Do you have a number (for Jeff to call him back at)?' ... I said, 'No, I'm at a phone booth.'
"And she said, 'Why don't you come in?'"
During that long walk from Rockford to the Alcoa Police Department, Wayne could not help but think about the past 10 days.
"I wanted to be helped right then," he said. "And I guess God wanted me to go back and just see (one more time what being a drug addict was like), so I wouldn't wonder."
Life as an addict
Wayne was born on April 18, 1949, in the outskirts of Chicago. He was adopted shortly after his first birthday and moved to Rockford. He never knew his birth parents.
He grew up the son of working-class parents in Rockford, and the strongest drug he ever used early in life was alcohol. But even that got him in trouble.
He got married at 17 and was divorced and remarried by 21. He moved to Dayton, Ohio, with his second wife in 1969. But after 12 years, that marriage fell apart as well.
"She said I was an alcoholic," he said. "And looking back, I guess I was - I drank every day."
While he was married, Wayne said he had a home - a nice three-bedroom house - cars, money, and anything else he might need.
But after the divorce, he fell apart. He took his $6,000 divorce settlement and, on the advice of some of his friends, decided to make a different kind of investment.
"So everybody told me, 'Man, you can really make money off of coke (cocaine),'" he said.
"So I came here, I came back to Tennessee ... to buy crack."
"First I bought a quarter ounce, then I bought an ounce."
It went downhill from there.
"I started using - I started experimenting with it," he said. "And that's when I really acquired an addiction to crack.
"I guess I used it, now looking back, you know, to fill the space," he said. "I lost my home, I lost my wife, lost my car."
Wayne got married again, quit his job of 18 years at Dayton Power and Light as a gas and electric serviceman and moved to Las Vegas.
Feeding the demon
Soon he was working only to feed his addiction. "I was like three hours away from being in the soup line in Las Vegas," he said. And after leaving his wife and moving back to Tennessee in 1987, it continually got worse.
"I was doing great until I met Mr. Crack and it just started taking all my money," he said. "By the way, I guess I'm still married to that woman, because we never got a divorce."
He got a trailer in Rockford and started working for the Tennessee Highway Department. That is, until he got a DUI. "And I just didn't go back to work on that job," he said.
New crack users - or rookies - are the ones who get hustled, and by this point Wayne was the hustler.
"When I lived in Rockford, I had a trailer and they (his customers) would come and I would take them to Alcoa to get drugs," he said. "I wasn't a drug dealer, I was a user. And I was doing this to support my habit."
The hustle was easy and Wayne always took his cut as the middle man.
"I would go to Alcoa, get out of the car - they were white, all my customers where white - they would go to Kroger, turn around and come back. And I would walk into the hood (to get the drugs)," he said. "Say they gave me $50, well, I could get a better quantity than they could. So out of $50, I would probably get maybe $20 worth of crack - they were satisfied, I was satisfied.
"A lot of times they would sit at my place and smoke it, we would smoke it."
"I was just off into the drug world," he said. "You know, drugs draw women, and women draw men and I had a little old business there I guess - had a little crack house, I guess.
"The police thought it was, too," he said laughing.
Prison
In 2003, Wayne was arrested, charged with and convicted for delivery of cocaine.
"Well, I got caught," he said. "A guy wore a wire on me four times - a guy I thought was a friend of mine. And I ended up doing 26 months in the state penitentiary."
It wasn't the first time Wayne had been arrested, but it was the first time for a drug charge. And it was by far the hardest time he ever served. Between 1996 and 2007, Wayne has been in and out of the Blount County Jail 17 times. He was in jail three times just this year.
But while at Northwest Correctional Complex in Tiptonville, it was the real deal.
Going even lower
After he got out and returned to his drug-addicted lifestyle, his adoptive mother - a retired school teacher, who taught him when he was younger in a two-room, segregated schoolhouse - died in June 2006. "And that's when I became homeless and didn't know it," he said.
"At the time, I wasn't working, there was a mortgage on the house and taxes were behind," he said. "We were almost ready to lose the house."
But before they did, someone bought it. And while they were remodeling, they let Wayne live in a tent on the yard to look after the place. He stayed warm by burning trash discarded during the remodeling job.
"I did roll over into the fire one night," he said somberly. "I slept by a fire, a trash fire."
"By then, I was selling drugs," he said. "I was hustling drugs to get high, to stay high.
"I got hungry, man. I got so hungry at times I would just get weak," he said. "The thing about the drug world - I call it the devil, because it is the devil - the devil will get you high, but he ain't going to get you a sandwich."
It was the same for other drug addicts. "You'll starve to death, but they'll get you a beer," he said. "But they won't give you a sandwich, man. I'm talking about people you know, friends, you know? "Because they ain't hungry, they're getting high."
That was a turning point for Wayne. "This is the point that I think God brought me to, to show me what not having is - not having water, not having food, not having clothing," he said. "When I hit the bottom, that taught me a lot that I didn't learn in 50-something years."
His guardian angel
Walking up to the window at the Alcoa Police Department, Wayne asked for Jeff. The woman behind the glass asked if Jeff would be expecting him. "I said, 'Oh yeah, he's expecting me,'" Wayne said.
Talking to Jeff, though, he would tell you that the man in the lobby was something he wasn't expecting at all. He had given his number to people like Wayne before, but no one ever called him back. And when he walked into the room and saw Wayne standing there, it was a bit of a revelation.
"(Wayne) goes, 'I'm here, I need some help,'" Jeff said. "I was like, 'Oh my gosh, this is for real now."
The first thing Jeff wanted to do was get Wayne something to eat. Unfortunately, they stopped at a gas station where Wayne had a history.
"I said, 'Man, I got caught stealing food out of there,'" Wayne said. And sure enough, when the two of them walked in the cashier remembered the man who tried to leave with a can of Spam under his shirt. Wayne doesn't blame them, how could you forget a guy who said that bulge was actually a pistol when they tried to stop him.
But Jeff doesn't hold that past against Wayne.
"At the time he did what he did (use drugs), he had nothing," Jeff said. "He was in survival mode."
Jeff got so upset about the way the workers at the station reacted, the two of them left. Food wasn't really the most important thing for Wayne right now anyway, Jeff said. It was finding him a place to stay that night.
My kingdom for a couch

Jeff didn't have much luck at first at a nearby homeless shelter - there weren't any rooms available. But there was a couch.
"I said, 'Can he please sleep on the couch tonight?'" Jeff said. And the person in charge agreed to let Wayne sleep there, but just for the night.
"The very same night - and this is how God works - a guy moved out," Wayne said. "The very same night. "I felt like I was in the Hilton Hotel."
At that time, Wayne only had his small suitcase and the few pieces of clothing it contained. And he almost didn't have that.
While Wayne was in the Blount County Jail, Jeff had gone back to his tree to get the bag. But the owners of the property were cleaning up the yard and had already thrown it in the trash pile. If it had been taken to the dump, Wayne would have lost the few possessions he still had. Jeff was able to pull it out of the pile before that happened, though.
"It was by pure luck," Jeff said. "In another hour it would have been gone." There were a few other things Wayne needed at the homeless shelter - basic toiletries mostly. He gave Jeff a "wish list" of items - but it contained things that most people didn't have to wish for. And it made Jeff, and later his wife, cry to read it.
"It was a long list - toothpaste, toothbrushes, just things like that," Jeff said.
He took the list and went to the store. "He said, 'Let me see your list,'" Wayne said. "He just took the list, man. He came back, not with two bars of soap (but with) a 12-pack of soap, toothpaste, deodorant - I mean two deodorants.
"Everything on that list, he brought me," he said. "Him and his wife got it for me."
On top of that, the manager of the Alcoa Wal-Mart, Boyce Smith, donated shoes and some clothes for Wayne.
Signs of life
Far from the sad man he picked up at the Exxon station that day in July, Jeff has seen the light re-enter Wayne's eyes in the past few months.
"The change that I've seen in Luther (Wayne) is his spirit," Jeff said. "He's just happier; he's bubblier."
A week-and-a-half after he moved into the homeless shelter, Wayne had gotten himself a job at Buddy's BBQ on Alcoa Highway. And with that, he finally felt at least a little self-sufficient.
"I got 10 hours the first paycheck," Wayne said. "Ten hours the first week. "I brought home my $57 and man, that felt like $570 in my pocket."
Jeff would take Wayne to the bank every week to cash his check, and just as things were really looking up, "Bam, child support hit," Wayne said.
Wayne has five children - four girls and a boy. The oldest was born in 1967 and the youngest is in his 20s. None of them kept in contact with their dad while he was on drugs - Wayne hasn't seen his son since 1988.
"I didn't want them to see me like that," he said. "They didn't want to see me like that."
Along with not seeing them, Wayne also did not pay to support them. And over the years he fell $27,000 behind in child support. And when he finally got a legal job, the government stepped in and started taking the money back, $50 at a time.
"You know, times in the past I would have used that as an excuse," he said of the garnishment. "I'd say the hell with it, I'm not going to work and pay child support - I'm going back to drugs."
But that's not what he did. He kept working, he kept paying child support and after a few weeks was able to get an even better-paying job detailing RVs at Chilhowee RV Center in Alcoa.
Clerical error
Even with all the strides Wayne was taking to set his life straight, his past keeps sneaking up on him. One day Jeff got wind that Wayne had a warrant issued for his arrest for not paying child support. Jeff thought that was odd, because he knew Wayne was paying the support - he took him to the bank every week and saw his check.
Jeff went to Blount County Circuit Judge W. Dale Young and convinced him to remove the attachments for contempt. He told the judge, "If you put him in jail now, he'll lose his job." And in that, he would lose everything he had worked so hard to gain. Wayne certainly knows what would have happened if Jeff hadn't stepped in to help him.
"If he hadn't been my friend, I would have been homeless again and I'd have been back on drugs again. I know I would," he said. "I'd have said, 'What's the use? I'm doing everything right and I still can't make it.'"
The only condition is that Jeff had to promise Wayne would be at his next court hearing. "And he was - I took him," Jeff said. It turned out to be a clerical error, Jeff said, "It wasn't even his fault."
A working, walking man
Wayne walks to work every day from his own apartment near Chilhowee RV Center. Danny Stahl, the shop foreman at Chilhowee RV, said he remembered the day Wayne came in looking for a job.
"He seemed really sincere about coming to work," he said, explaining how he went to his boss about Wayne after meeting him. "I told him that there was something about this guy that I had a good feeling about.
"I told him I would really like to put this guy on (to work)." When he offered Wayne the job, he started the next day.
"He was here early," Stahl said. "He's been here early ever since. "He's just a really, really dependable guy."
Stahl said he would never guess by looking at him that Wayne has gone through the things he has, but everyone deserves a chance regardless of their past.
"Everybody has to have a job," he said. "I personally don't care what his past is. "I'm just glad I found Luther (Wayne)," he said, quickly correcting himself. "Or that he found me."
God's hand
Both Jeff and Wayne agree on one thing, if things had happened differently that day in July, Wayne would still be on the street or possibly dead.
If it hadn't been Jeff who arrested him that day, "I would still be over there in crack city," Wayne said. "I would probably be dead, more than likely."
"He'd still be in the street," Jeff reiterated. "There's no doubt in my mind.
"That's how wonderful God is: He did this, He planned this," he said. "Until the day I die, I'll believe this is God's work.
"We'll be friends for life, there's no doubt in my mind," he added. "He'll be someone I'll never forget."
Wayne is thankful for that friendship, and the fact that Jeff cared enough to try and help a down-and-out crack addict.
"What if Jeff had looked at me and said, 'Oh, look at him. He stinks, I don't want to bother with him, he ain't never going to straighten up," Wayne said. "But he didn't, he looked at me as a human being."
For the people struggling with the same demons Wayne was battling only months ago, he says you have to make that first step away from a life of drugs.
"I try to tell them, 'You can, you can, you can,'" he said. "But you've got to get out of there, you've got to get out from under that tree."
Still a long way to go
Wayne has only been clean for about three months - two months shy of his longest drug-free stretch, the 5½ months he was clean in the late 1980s. And he'll tell you he's not a saint.
"I'm still weak," he said. "I struggle every day."
But there are things, people and God in his life that help him stay clean. "I can look in the refrigerator and I've got me something to eat and I've got a clean bed to sleep on, and I know if I go over there and start smoking that (crack), I'll bypass the office (and not pay rent) and I'll be homeless, just like that," he said. "And I ain't going back, I'm not going back.
"I'm not going to say I'll never be homeless again," he said. "But it won't be because of crack. I promise you that."
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Nov. 23, 2007 - Untitled Comment
Posted by SmallWorld (24.151.178.103)
That was a fabulous article, and I'm glad Wayne got to spend the day with you all!
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Nov. 26, 2007 - wow.
Posted by DrHibiscus (160.36.154.150)
I read that article when it came out in the paper, but didn't make the connection with you until Sarah mentioned it. What an amazing journey. And how cool that you got to spend Thanksgiving with him. Even if white people make him nervous I bet it was one of the best Thanksgivings he's had for a while!
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Nov. 27, 2007 - That was very good for me to read!
Posted by bestsister (64.231.166.22)
My husband is an officer and there have been kids he's tried to help in the past. So far none have been ready. It is frustrating to watch them continue the destructive cycle when they don't have to. But your family's experience has encouraged me that in the Lord's timing, the right opportunity to serve will come along. Blessings!
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Nov. 27, 2007 - Untitled Comment
Posted by WaitingontheLord (69.210.209.91)
Wow! And your children get to see the adults in their family showing the love of God. Thank you for letting your light shine!

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Grossology

While looking over the options for our next semester of Monday Fun classes, I saw this class listed and thought it would be fun for Caleb.
Grossology: Icky sticky science. Lots of fun and lots of experiments. Find out why you have bad breath, what’s in your poop, what’s in your throw up and why you don’t want to eat your boogers.
Sounds like a good boy class to me. So, I ask Caleb about taking it sand said, "Then you could tell Bekah and Elisa why they shouldn't eat their boogers." And Bekah says, "Yeah, especially me."
So, on the way to Bible study that night, Caleb says, "Yeah, pretty much I don't eat my boogers anymore."
I can't wait to here what he learns....
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Nov. 22, 2007 - I thought it sounded really clever, too
Posted by QueenoftheHill (72.12.53.46)
But then I noticed they are holding the class at the crack of dawn! It's a challenge, but I'm going to try to limit my boys to 1 class. It is just too hard to entertain Baby any longer than that. Probably Shakespeare will determine what time we'll be there. OS loves that!

Tuesday, November 20, 2007

My four year old...

Last Thursday was Elisa's fourth birthday. It's hard to believe my "baby" is four. I mean, by the time Caleb was 3 1/2, he had two younger siblings. But here is Elisa, with no younger siblings, and growing up so fast.
Unfortunately, I was not feeling well that day, and wasn't the most pleasant person to be around, but it was a great day for her, complete with a trip to Chuck E Cheese, and a new princess laptop.
Elisa was, in a way, a surprise for Mike and I. After having Caleb and Bekah 24 months apart, we thought we would spread out the next one. We found out Elisa was on the way right after Bekah turned one. So, Caleb was 3 1/2 and Bekah 1 1/2 when Elisa came along. I really thought I would have to resusitate Mike the night I told him I was pregnant.
But what a joy she is. This little blonde hair, blue eyed dimpled beauty still makes our hearts melt. The first thing she wants to do in the morning is come and cuddle with me. While she has been my biggest "turkey", she brings me so much happiness, and I feel so blessed that God gave me this precious little girl. Here she is, after being 5 days late, and in labor all night....she performed her first gymnastics stunt and turned transverse, and was delivered c-section.
And so it is fitting that she is a good little gymnast and wanted a gymnastics party this year...
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Nov. 20, 2007 - Untitled Comment
Posted by SmallWorld (24.151.178.103)
I sure do love that little girl!!!!!
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Nov. 21, 2007 - yes
Posted by onfire (206.132.59.39)
she was the one who very politely, and matter of factly asked me to scoot over on the picnic table bench on the first day, too. imagine. (hope you have more)
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Nov. 22, 2007 - What a doll!
Posted by QueenoftheHill (72.12.53.46)
And what a bummer to labor all night and THEN have a c-section! She's a beautiful little girl, and you'll be beating the boys off with sticks when she hits teenhood. Hope Mr. FYFTN is up to the task!